Lately, I’ve been seeing a lot of people invalidating bisexuality with comments along the lines of ‘It’s just a phrase’, ‘Pick a side!’. I, personally, am so tired of the pure ignorance and disrespect that those who identify as bisexual have to endure on a daily basis. If you are bisexual and have had your sexual preferences invalidated and pushed aside then I’m sorry. You shouldn’t have to endure this purely because some people don’t understand it.
I’ll explain it simply, if you don’t fully understand it. Bisexuality begins with the pre-fix of ‘bi’, meaning two. Bisexual people are sexually and/or romantically attracted to two different genders. However, this doesn’t necessarily mean all bisexual people are attracted to both males and females. This includes non-binary genders, meaning genders such as agender, gender-fluid etc.. I would explain these genders but that’s a post for another day.
Just because people who identify as bisexual are attracted to more than one gender, their sexuality is still valid. They don’t need to ‘pick a side’ and saying phrases like that only perpetuates the idea that heterosexuality and homosexuality are the only two sexual orientations that should exist. It needs to be realised that there are more sexualities than these two and they need to be represented.
A lot of people have the ideology that when someone who is bisexual dates someone of the opposite sex, they are now suddenly straight, and when they date someone of the same sex, they are miraculously homosexual. None of that is true at all. It doesn’t matter what sex someone is dating, they don’t switch from being straight to gay. They will always be bisexual.
Another issue is that bisexual people have to deal with some members of the LGBTQA+ community invalidating them. There is a B in LGBTQA+ for a reaosn. It stands for bisexual and anyone, whether they’re bisexual, or fall under another term in the LGBTQA+ umbrella, should not be made to feel worthless, invalidated or unsafe in their own community.
We need to educate people on the facts of bisexuality and what it is. Bisexuality isn’t a phrase and those who identify as bisexual are completely valid.